tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6356774295771707830.post3104933986595298857..comments2023-05-27T08:46:02.401-05:00Comments on Holy Pee Stick, Batman!!: "no, no kids yet"Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6356774295771707830.post-79996910281477485892011-01-28T13:50:37.524-06:002011-01-28T13:50:37.524-06:00I hate those days and the questions that come with...I hate those days and the questions that come with them. Sending you a hug honey!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09209255370571861480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6356774295771707830.post-12285555455257331142011-01-27T19:05:11.576-06:002011-01-27T19:05:11.576-06:00Ugh, I'm so sorry...I HATE that question too. ...Ugh, I'm so sorry...I HATE that question too. It's the worst when you can tell it's probably coming and you can't avoid it yet don't know how to reply. Impossible situation, I'm so glad your friend was able to take you.rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06480554666969330506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6356774295771707830.post-76703394373180311212011-01-27T09:07:13.076-06:002011-01-27T09:07:13.076-06:00Tiffany. ((hugs))
The very first time i was aske...Tiffany. ((hugs))<br /><br />The very first time i was asked that, I stumbled. I said just one. I bawled and bawled after that I swore I would never do it again. I don't care how awkward it is. I don't care if means I might tear up for a minute, I will never again say I only have 1 child. When people ask I say I have a 6 year old and 18 month old that will forever be a angel. Sometimes they ask me to explain and sometimes they dont. You are in my my thoughts todayJennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13964282196898709053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6356774295771707830.post-48189900306378305692011-01-27T08:16:13.715-06:002011-01-27T08:16:13.715-06:00Tiffany, u are in my thoughts & prayers.Tiffany, u are in my thoughts & prayers.Tanashiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12804431127620373650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6356774295771707830.post-88057504708350271082011-01-27T03:56:21.692-06:002011-01-27T03:56:21.692-06:00I just found your blog through some other blogs I ...I just found your blog through some other blogs I follow. I am so sorry that you are having such a tough time right now. I still say no when asked if I have kids. For me it's not about denying my son, it's just to protect myself. I am worried that I will burst into tears and not be able to stop. <br /><br />So go easy on yourself. I also have a lot of places I can't go back to just yet. The most recent is the yoga studio where I did my pregnancy yoga. I really want to go back but for now it still has too many memories. But maybe someday I'll be strong enough to go.My New Normalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03482513767849843084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6356774295771707830.post-53395564830901122662011-01-27T01:11:17.901-06:002011-01-27T01:11:17.901-06:00It's a little late, but sending love! I've...It's a little late, but sending love! I've started answering that question with "I'm not comfortable discussing that?" I don't care where people's mind go when I say that.Missyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17215595176820577303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6356774295771707830.post-92011680759536123082011-01-26T20:49:50.530-06:002011-01-26T20:49:50.530-06:00I know there is no answer to that question that do...I know there is no answer to that question that doesn't hurt. Sending prayers and love your way.Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05946311309467296976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6356774295771707830.post-76631435890871238072011-01-26T19:42:22.640-06:002011-01-26T19:42:22.640-06:00Sending up prayers. I too have said "no"...Sending up prayers. I too have said "no" to that question. Not because I am denying them, but because I was protecting my fragile heart and as not to burst into tears. One question usually leads to another if I say yes and here comes the waterworks! You did not deny Juju, you were simply protecting your heart. {{HUGS}}Marie Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18203552551406512142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6356774295771707830.post-89293749558808768352011-01-26T16:41:07.582-06:002011-01-26T16:41:07.582-06:00Sending prayers up for you.
We had this exact t...Sending prayers up for you. <br /><br />We had this exact thing happen to us today (well, not the car, or the tow truck, but the exact question and the exact response.) And as soon as it came out of my mouth, my heart sunk, it felt like a betrayal, to my son and to myself...<br /><br />I know why I did it - it was easier, I was talking to a stranger, it was almost reflexive...but it's made me feel sick all day.sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15316131078833658090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6356774295771707830.post-81038816781783518782011-01-26T15:21:27.931-06:002011-01-26T15:21:27.931-06:00Thinking of you. I hope the rest of your day is b...Thinking of you. I hope the rest of your day is better!Kimberlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02498328152168624157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6356774295771707830.post-32677079210702389472011-01-26T14:43:25.164-06:002011-01-26T14:43:25.164-06:00oh tiffany! i am so sorry you are having a bad day...oh tiffany! i am so sorry you are having a bad day! i too fear this situation! i never want to allude that ellie didn't exist but sometimes just don't want to get into it with a stranger... sending you good thoughts and strength today!Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00136730311790093702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6356774295771707830.post-34668148728418373602011-01-26T14:20:01.355-06:002011-01-26T14:20:01.355-06:00((hugs)) I am so sorry that you had to be put in t...((hugs)) I am so sorry that you had to be put in this situation. I am praying that your day gets a little better and that they send a different driver to pick you up today.Rhiannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11722893069322386523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6356774295771707830.post-12873716547148591032011-01-26T13:59:29.303-06:002011-01-26T13:59:29.303-06:00Tiffany, the first time is always the hardest. I&#...Tiffany, the first time is always the hardest. I've started just being honest and if it makes them uncomfortable that my son died, then that's their problem.<br /><br />I'm sending you all my love and strength and praying that God is able to ease your sorrow today and give you comfort.<br /><br />xoAngiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09787279517741148607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6356774295771707830.post-40707478297851957692011-01-26T12:29:42.059-06:002011-01-26T12:29:42.059-06:00Extra prayers for you for sure! Sorry that you are...Extra prayers for you for sure! Sorry that you are having a hard day. (((hugs)))Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15550346625004276669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6356774295771707830.post-67966424991429762332011-01-26T12:25:55.820-06:002011-01-26T12:25:55.820-06:00I know this won't seem true, but this question...I know this won't seem true, but this question does get easier to answer. 18 months ago when somebody asked, I would just cry or not answer. Now, I can strongly include Gage in this answer. But I still HATE the way people look at you when you answer truthfully. It's a terribly moment and I am so sorry you are having to go through this. Something that helped me (and this will sound silly) is that I can up with a standard answer that I give everyone. It's like a little sentence I have memorized and when someone asks how many kids I have, I just automatically say it. It kind of makes it less out of my control if that makes any sense. But I know none of these things make it better. I am sending lots of hugs your way today. Feel free to write me anytime. Love, MaryMaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17324454725674862420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6356774295771707830.post-81968263837222980532011-01-26T12:22:56.682-06:002011-01-26T12:22:56.682-06:00Extra prayers for you today, Tiffany. I hope your...Extra prayers for you today, Tiffany. I hope your day gets better and that you can find some joy today. (((HUGS)))Jamiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16421178885323369474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6356774295771707830.post-39918532931600382232011-01-26T12:22:45.052-06:002011-01-26T12:22:45.052-06:00There is immense pain with feeling you denied the ...There is immense pain with feeling you denied the existence of your child. A friend of mine once told me that I shouldn't feel bad if I had to do it sometimes in able to not fall apart, the people who mattered knew the truth and it didn't mean that I loved my baby any less at that moment. I'm praying for your strength every day. Much love to you.Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12277453490526994432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6356774295771707830.post-76347057711142773862011-01-26T12:09:02.239-06:002011-01-26T12:09:02.239-06:00Thinking of you today, praying for you always, an...Thinking of you today, praying for you always, and remembering sweet Julius.Deannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06299163482958386559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6356774295771707830.post-70556575498938865492011-01-26T11:57:34.005-06:002011-01-26T11:57:34.005-06:00Praying for you everyday, I will say a few more to...Praying for you everyday, I will say a few more today.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10774960200378744093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6356774295771707830.post-77256945944561357142011-01-26T11:52:29.307-06:002011-01-26T11:52:29.307-06:00you are in my thoughts and prayers...you are in my thoughts and prayers...paulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13874223358425248464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6356774295771707830.post-62466491507783855682011-01-26T11:14:10.432-06:002011-01-26T11:14:10.432-06:00Said a prayer for you! Sorry you're having a r...Said a prayer for you! Sorry you're having a rough day. :(Deannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00707870027944452944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6356774295771707830.post-84732923047406760232011-01-26T10:44:51.521-06:002011-01-26T10:44:51.521-06:00Praying for peace and strength for you.Praying for peace and strength for you.Susan Hamiltonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6356774295771707830.post-42365863755407987192011-01-26T10:19:48.703-06:002011-01-26T10:19:48.703-06:00Praying so hard, sweet girl!Praying so hard, sweet girl!Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00632265295289013027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6356774295771707830.post-73329681941762163382011-01-26T10:11:26.065-06:002011-01-26T10:11:26.065-06:00That's the worst, Tiffany. I HATE when I can f...That's the worst, Tiffany. I HATE when I can feel *the* question coming. I seriously get all hot and sweaty and nervous and like I am going to throw up. Lately, I've just said, 'no' because it's usually asked in front of multiple people, and I don't want to have to get into it (or cry) in front of them. It's such a lose-lose situation. Either your day is ruined because you have a big melt-down in front of strangers, or your day is ruined because you feel guilty for 'denying' your child all day. :(<br /><br />Sorry you're even having to deal with this. I sound like a broken record, but it's so, so unfair. <br /><br />Love ya!Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05292279414919447049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6356774295771707830.post-67196731434439885062011-01-26T10:10:59.687-06:002011-01-26T10:10:59.687-06:00Oh Tiffany, I have ran that conversation through m...Oh Tiffany, I have ran that conversation through my head many times. How many kids do you have?<br /><br />Do I say three, and deny Savannah's rightful place AS one of my children?<br />Or do I just muster four, and leave it at that. After all, they probably don't REALLY wanna hear about me afterall...<br />Or do I do it. Do I say four, but one passed away. Leading to devastation on both parties involved. Me and the questioner.<br /><br />I WILL be praying today, as I do everyday! <3<br />All my love today and always!Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14508922160749666019noreply@blogger.com