since Julius passed away, i have been beating myself up because i never got a chance to say "goodbye" to him. by the time i made it to the daycare he had already been taken to the hospital. and by the time we got to the hospital, they informed us that he was gone. i can't express to you how heartbroken i have been because i never had the opportunity to be there.
but this weekend, i saw this video of one of the keynote speakers at the 2012 TCF conference, and the words she said were so powerful, i burst into tears several times. one thing she said about saying "goodbye" is that if we had the chance to do everything again, and were given the opportunity to say something to our loved one before they passed away, would we really waste our breath on saying "goodbye". no, we would probably use that time to tell them that we love them.
oh, that choked me up! she was so right. i would say "i love you." and i am thankful that i DID have the chance to tell him that very thing when i went to feed him hours before. a little of the guilt was lifted from me when i heard those words. but how i still miss him so.
if you would like to see the powerful (and funny) closing remarks from Darcie Sims check it out below...
Back to School for the Child Loss Parent
4 years ago
2 comments:
Omg I did the ugly cry about 6 times but this was wonderful to watch. Thank you for sharing.
Lots of early morning cries over here. That's a great speech and I love her thoughts on saying goodbye. She's right- I would have said I love you over and over and over. It's so hard. We beat ourselves up constantly over what we didn't do or know. But as she said we grieve because we love. We love them. Thanks for sharing this ❤️
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