need advice?

first let me say, thank you for all of the words of support you sent after my post the other day. in general i tend to be very protective of my grief and my son, and i get very riled up when i hear/read insensitive comments being made to other grieving families. i understand that there are those that really do not understand the feelings/emotions that go along with losing a child {i wish i did not have to understand these feelings myself}, but sometimes i feel like there are those that don't even attempt to show empathy toward those grieving {like that woman did with my friend}, and that really upsets me.

i got a few comments about not liking the phrase "God only gives us what we can handle." i have to admit, i really dislike that phrase myself. hearing that or anything about this being God's "plan" is like watching/hearing someone run their nails against a chalkboard for me. but while i was pinning away a few weeks ago, i found quote that actually brought me comfort...

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i actually don't mind thinking about it this way. and i like to think that Julius is right there with him helping me along.

and finally i want to plug my dear BLM friend, Eliza's momma, Brooke. she has started giving advice on her blog under the pseudonym Ms. B Reeved. Here's her little description:

"I'd like to introduce Ms. B. Reeved, my alter-ego who will occasionally be dispensing advice on this blog, intended to give well-meaning strangers some idea about what to expect and how to deal with a bereaved parent. She has experienced the loss of her infant daughter, so she knows whereof she speaks, but she also is able to respond objectively, since these are situations and questions posited to her by readers and NOT necessarily from her own life. She will accept letters and queries sent to bythebrooke (at) gmail (dot) com."


she's answered 2 questions so far, and the advice she gives, in my opinion is so well-written, informative, and a bit witty. i have heard so many times that people just don't know what to do or say around someone that has experienced pregnancy/infant loss. so if you are out there reading, and have a question you would like answered, send Ms. B an email. it can be so enlightening to hear the perspective of someone who has "been there."