yesterday was J's memorial service. it was absolutely amazing. the turnout was amazing - it was so wonderful to see all of the people that J touched in his short life. and to see how far our support system reaches. J was loved, and we are blessed - there is no question about those two things. the most memorable and touching part of the service was D's eulogy. D felt *very* strongly about saying something. he wanted to tell those in attendance all about the little boy we had the privilege of knowing/raising. and he did an amazing job! i have an amazing man as my hubby, and i'm so very very sorry that J won't get to see that for himself. anyway, i just thought i would share D's eulogy...
first i would like to say that my wife and i really appreciate everyone's support. i wasn't sure if i would be able to get up here and say something, but i felt strongly that even though Julius learned so little of the world, the world should know about him. Julius was a very happy child. He was not one to cry for no reason. He was great with other people, he really liked the attention. He was so nosey, even when he was eating, if he heard people talking he would stop and look around to figure out what was going on. But that was just how observant and alert he was. Julius loved to be held, we bought these baby carriers and they were his favorite place. he stayed close to our hearts all the time.
Julius had the craziest hair; it was puffy, but only at the top of his head. Tiff and I called it his "frohawk." we like to have conversations together, I would change him in the morning and get him ready for his day, while he talked and talked. I didn't understand what he said, but he said it with gusto. Julius had a great laugh, I would pretend to eat his stomach and he would go crazy [with laughter]. I remember one time i lifted him up and pretended to eat him, he grabbed both of my ears and pulls me to him and started to eat my face. it was the most amazing thing. he was so close to doing so many amazing things. it just was not fair.
but he made me a better man. he taught me patience and a greater lover than i ever knew. tiff and i never thought that we would be able to take care of another life, but he was here, we loved him, and we know that he loved us. thank you for keeping us in your thoughts and prayers, and i hope that when you think of Julius you can now see the beautiful child that we knew.
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