Back to School for the Child Loss Parent
5 years ago
Saturday, December 18, 2010
Someone please remind me...
...never to subscribe to another magazine again. Last night's breakdown was sponsored by Parenting magazine. I don't even know why I subscribed to it in the first place. I never read them, but now they are a constant reminder and a constant stab to my heart. It went promptly in the trash. :(
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I had the same thing happen with Similac formula sending emails and samples. It feels like torture. I love ya Tiffany.
Right there with ya. :( I keep getting baby magazines and formula samples in the mail. I told my husband that when I get pregnant again, I will not be signing up for anything!
((hugs))
After everything happened with me losing Holden, my sister got the idea to take it upon herself to cancel every subscription to any parents magazine, all the freebies from Huggies, pampers, etc and even cancelled my gift registries so that no one who didn't know would send me anything. I was honestly a savior.... I just couldn't have that constint reminder that my son was gone.
Hugs to you Tiffany! I think of you and Julis all the time.
I'm so sorry Tiffany......I've never been a mom and it's very painful to look at these magazines or be at work during holiday parties and see everyone bring their kids to work and have people ask you why you dont have any kids of your own (wish I knew). This is probably nothing compared to your pain but I'm with you, I love you and I hope these moments dont occur to you anymore. I continue to pray for you my friend. I have faith that God has a plan for us, there is a reason why we are still here. You said it yourself, you have an amzing husband that adores you unconditionally and that is a very good reason to keep on hanging on.
After Matthew died, we started a tradition of walking in his memory with the March of Dimes. We still do it every year. Last year, in protest, we nearly didn't. We had started donating what we would have spent on his birthday and Christmas presents in his memory to the March of Dimes. We started getting mail FROM them addressed to Matthew. It took nearly a year of telling them how incredibly hard it was to go to the mailbox and see mail addressed to a little boy that would never open it before it stopped. Gerber and Huggies were both really bad about it too. So were pull ups when he would have been about 2, we got coupons like crazy for our potty training son. I swore that if I ever started a non-profit it would be one that would take baby loss families off of all marketing campaigns so the parents wouldn't be forced to endure that heartache when they go to the mailbox every day :(
Ugh, we had the same thing happen...someone had ordered us a subscription late into my pregnancy and now we get that lovely reminder every month! Nick gets home from work before me though and tries to intercept throwing them immediately into the recycling.
I'm sorry. :( The mail is your worst enemy some days. We lost Olivia over a year ago and I still get crap in the mail,now it's "for your toddler" which is a whole new stab in the heart, even though I unsubscribed from everything I could, it still finds you.
It's the little things like this that people don't think of when they consider families dealing with grief. I'm so thankful that you're sharing, so that others can be more aware and sensitive. You've forever changed how I will handle things if another of my students has to suffer the death of their child. I know it doesn't even register on your list of silver linings, but I wanted to thank you nonetheless. Your words are so meaningful and useful.
It's yet another reminder, like you really need one. For me, I haven't subscribed to anything, but I simply watch my friend's baby due at the same time as mine, and it hurts. You just get used to it after a while. Don't let it get to you... easier said than done.
ME TOO!!!!!!! A parent in my classroom (I teach second grade) was trying to be nice and got me a subscription when I got pregnant. But then it comes...every month....and I want to just burst into tears....
I am so sorry. I still get the emails that say, "Your baby at 10 months, 11 months, etc." It's like a stab at my heart everytime I see them.
(((HUGS)))
Not to sound like a broken record, but...that happened to me as well. I'd see them in the mailbox, roll them up, and throw them in the trash can as soon as possible. What hurt worse was getting Huggies or Pampers pamphlets updating me on what my "5 month old" or "7 month old" is doing. Oh, that was gut-wrenching and so heart-breaking. I'm so sorry...there are reminders everywhere, and it can really hurt. Praying for you.
I'm so sorry. {{HUGS}}
Caroline
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